You are likely here because a man you care about is quietly losing his grip on his own life.

Often the visible edge is drinking too much. Sometimes it is drugs, porn, infidelity, or a mental health decline. Whatever the behavior is, it results in a marriage coming apart, a slow disappearance from his own life, or a pattern he can no longer control.

If you are close to him and thinking of putting this in front of him, there are two ways in. Which one depends on what would actually get through to him.

One way in: send him my TEDx talk, with no agenda attached, saying something like “Great message here, thought you might find it valuable.” If that lands, send him the link to my website.

The other way in: reach out to me directly, before you go to him, and tell me what you are seeing. I will listen, and I will tell you honestly what the best path forward is, even when the honest answer is hard. That conversation is confidential and commits you, and him, to nothing.

If and when I get in front of him, the ask is smaller than you might think. It is one private conversation with me, in complete confidence, with no obligation on either side. You are asking him to sit down with an expert and look at his own life honestly, once. What happens after that is his call.

If what ties you to him is also financial, a company, a partnership, or a balance sheet you share, read the For his board, advisors, and teams page as well.